In The Background

Jerry is disappointed that I am dating. He expected me to actually wait around for him for 2 years in the hopes that we might have sexual chemistry in person. Lots of variables have been left to chance in our relationship. The whole thing didn't start off well, we don't know if there is any sexual chemistry, we haven't spent adequate face time, and we won't be in the same place for at least another 24 months. Jerry wants to disregard all of the variables and hold out for me. I refuse to trust that he is really the one for me without having checked the viability of this relationship. Meanwhile there has been another guy in the background. Rafi is a very attractive guy who has been interested in me for a while. He met me without makeup and in sweats, and is still attracted to me. He is in his 30s, has a good job, and is interested in having actual relationships. We almost went out when I was on the dating website months ago, but the timing was totally off. I called him today. He is interested in going out with me and seeing where it may go. With Rafi I know that I can actually find out how well I get along with him in person. Unlike Jerry, things are not all theoretical, but actual. The prospect of a real decent, employed, attractive, and mature man coming into my life is really exciting to me. I can't say what exactly will happen, but (unfortunately for Jerry) I hope something good develops.