The Backup

I realize that I am entirely too intrigued with human behavior to stay out of trouble. I believe that I would have half the number of men I slept with if I didn't find people so interesting. Today I went where I never should have gone, but something in me had to see what it was about. This guy has been slightly obsessed with me via myspace for almost 8 months. He is a very successful Jewish guy in his mid 30s. He thought I was hot, and he added me as a friend. Apparently, though, he has a girlfriend who has recently given him an ultimatum to propose to her or she will leave him. Given the fact that he is unsure that she is "the one" she has effectively pushed him away. Considering this new development, and that he is still very much attracted to me (or my pictures at least) this guy asked me to lunch. It was not a date, but it definitely was not completely innocent either. Rafi has yet to really commit to me, so my curiosity got the better of me and I joined my cyber-stalker for lunch. While we have very similar personalities, he is definitely not the most physically attractive person I have met. Rafi is tons hotter than him, and I have way more chemistry with Rafi, but I am still intrigued by this strange dynamic. This guy just had to meet me. Because of that I had to meet him. At this point he is very attracted to me, and I am interested to see what he is going to try to do. He lives with his girlfriend, but he is on deadline to propose by August. Since he is planning to opt out, he is of the mind to wait it out until then, and then have her move out. Once that relationship is over he will need at least another 8 months to really rebound fully. He cannot even think to have a relationship with me for another year or so. Still, he is going to have "innocent" lunches with me just to keep me around as a backup. Funny enough, that should give Rafi just enough time to build something real with me. I could wind up in a really deep relationship with someone who (now, after entirely too long) has a level of physical and emotional intimacy with me that no one else has had with me for years. At that point this guy will be ready for something he cannot have. So really, what was the point? No matter what, I will be very curious to see how this will play out.