Put Up or Shut Up

The 3 month mark seems to be my breaking point for guys I am dating. Within 3 months the guy I am seeing either decides to commit to me, and starts to fall in love, or he gets scared and runs. With Rafi it seems that the same is true. While I get a text a day from him, nothing has changed in terms of how he sees me. The fact that he feels very comfortable with me keeps him attached, but his "under 10 partners" double standard pushes him away. It was right around 3 months that this final fission occurred. The same has happened before with a few other guys. Fortunately for me, the 3 month point has also been when a lot of guys have become intensely committed to being in a real relationship with me, and have started to fall in love with me. I certainly hope that this time around I will able to find someone who will be in a position to give me back what I am capable of giving. I want to feel like I can build something with a person who is stable, and in a place in their life that they can really move forward. When Chuck was in the picture, he was committed but he didn't have his life together. He won't for a long time. While Mike has his career in place, he just wasn't able to commit to anyone. What I need is both pieces of the puzzle.