Never Too Early

As soon as Dave was a prospect he was a has-been. After our very exhilarating date I heard absolutely nothing from him. I sent him a text message in the later morning, and he sent back a single sentence reply a few hours later. Since that point I have heard not one word from this man I was so very excited about. At this point it has been an entire week since our date. For whatever reason he decided that I wasn't worth pursuing. Talking to my best guy friend I realize that I may be a little too good at letting go. Perhaps I could come back towards the middle of the road on this issue as opposed to being on the far end of "being the one who calls." Sometimes, with the way I operate, it almost seems like a stand off. I may be contributing to the pattern more than I know. Since my Father left the family when I was very young I think that the idea of being left by someone is quite scary to me. Putting the first foot out the door has become a way of being in control of the situation, but sometimes it's better to just let things happen without helping them along. I sent Dave an email today to figure out what happened. The wording was very casual, and mostly said that I had enjoyed meeting him, that I hadn't heard from him, and I was curious what his thoughts were on the situation. Since I don't have ESP I can only get what is given to me. Since our date had 3 parts to it, but the continuation of the date from part 1 to parts 2 and 3 were suggested by him, I could have only deduced that he liked my company and was eager for more. Dave disappearing after the date, and not calling doesn't fit the pattern. Perhaps something happened later on that made him feel like it would not be a good idea to call. At the risk of being a complete "girl" about it I had made up my mind to let sleeping dogs lie. My actions today are completely counter-intuitive. I just poked my sleeping dog with a stick. At this point I can only wait and see what happens. I highly doubt the email will motivate him to call me for another date, but I do hope that it contains some insight as to what I may have done to cause him to jump ship.