The Unanswered Question

I always wonder why it is that guys act the way they do. Most of the time there is some insight that I have from guy friends about a particular guy's actions, but why they bail almost always alludes me. My coping mechanism is to cease to care at all, which will eventually make me a jaded b*tch. I am hoping to avoid this ending. Only twice have I ever attempted to either get a last word in, or ask why from the guy who bailed. When I did either of those things I usually got some answers, and the actions had no effect on whether or not the same guy who stopped contacting me would attempt to contact me a few months later. I used to think that my silence somehow encouraged the reconnection situation, but I now think the two are unrelated. Even my mother noticed this perpetual loop I seem to be in with certain guys. It's nice to be a memorable person, but it's hard when the connection with someone is there, then lost, then back again constantly. I'm on some sort of love merry-go-round, and it's not a fun ride! I'm ready to get out of this circus. Moving across the country will certainly limit the access a lot of the Chicago guys have to me, and thus will curb a certain amount of the problem. Since I am leaving I decided to attempt to get an answer from Adam about why he decided to cease contacting me. I told him that I would simply like some feedback from him, and that I did respect his decision, and promised not to turn this into a discussion nor reply to his answer. I would seriously like some insight from the horse's mouth. As of yet I have not received any messages, but I do hope that he gives me something. The last guy I asked told me that he really prefers stick figures (i.e. I was too curvy to date him) which didn't really help me at all. Most guys who date me already know that I am a curvy girl, and are usually really into that. Either this last guy was just lying, or his situation was atypical. I'm sure there are personality traits that are being perceived as not worthy of being a girlfriend type, and those are what I need to alter in order to change my luck with men. Ironically enough I do have the 2 guys in the background that are both looking to marry me. It's quite strange to be split into the categories of not-relationship-material, and then future-wife at the same time. Hopefully I get some answers soon.